Je pense avoir \u00e9t\u00e9 confront\u00e9e \u00e0 l\u2019alexithymie pour la premi\u00e8re fois il y a une vingtaine d\u2019ann\u00e9es, lors d\u2019une conversation avec ma belle-s\u0153ur. Elle me parlait des difficult\u00e9s que rencontrait son couple. Bien s\u00fbr, ni elle ni moi ne connaissions le mot ALEXITHYMIE. Mais surtout, je ne pense pas avoir compris ce dont elle me parlait ce soir-l\u00e0.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Elle me disait de mon fr\u00e8re qu\u2019il ne la regardait jamais, qu\u2019elle pouvait aussi bien se faire belle, ou s\u2019habiller comme un sac \u00e0 patates, sa r\u00e9action \u00e9tait la m\u00eame : rien. Il ne la complimentait pas. Il ne la critiquait pas non plus. Elle me disait que probablement il l\u2019aimait, mais il l\u2019aimait en bloc, en noir et blanc, sans nuances et sans couleurs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Moi je ne voyais pas ce qu\u2019il pouvait bien y avoir d\u2019aussi bouleversant dans ce constat. \u00ab\u2009Tant qu\u2019il t\u2019aime\u2026\u2009\u00bb<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Elle me parlait de sa souffrance, de son impuissance \u00e0 communiquer. Je savais mon fr\u00e8re un peu r\u00e9serv\u00e9 sur ses sentiments et je l\u2019encourageais na\u00efvement \u00e0 insister un peu, \u00e0 trouver les mots qui le feraient r\u00e9agir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ce dont m\u2019a parl\u00e9 ma belle-s\u0153ur cette nuit-l\u00e0, je l\u2019ai compris seulement dix ans plus tard, lorsqu\u2019\u00e0 mon tour j\u2019eus envie de plus d\u2019intimit\u00e9 avec l\u2019homme qui partageait ma vie.
Et que je me suis cogn\u00e9e \u00e0 une bo\u00eete noire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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